When you need support…

When you need support, how do you get it?

What kind of support do you need?  Do you even know?  I’m here to help you figure that out since I’ve created an amazing, supportive group around me and I love it!

If you are like me, you may have always wanted kindness, closeness and support around you.  Growing up, my siblings were 10 and 11 years older so I didn’t bond with them and I didn’t ever learn how to get the closeness I desired.  I always craved it.

Then a huge transition began. My family dissolved through death and additional separations.  My partner of 20 years, Ray, passed away.  I was “left” alone…in the universe…in shock….and wondering, what the heck had happened to my life?

It was devastating.  I was REALLY alone and terrified.  I cannot explain that kind of aloneness and shock, and I desperately needed support.  There was only one problem.  I had no idea how to get it, create it or attract it.  Oh, believe me I tried–some meetups, some church groups, and some discussion groups, but there was one problem.  My subconscious mind had attached negative beliefs to getting close!  I felt like I was drowning with only desperation and loss in my mind & body.  I needed help that would feel “right”.  When I tried to reach out and the avenues didn’t work, I felt even more despair because my “loss” pain was so overwhelming.

Then it started.  I worked on my energy.  Up until that point, everyone wanted to “fix” me, by giving me ideas, suggestions, and solutions that I was not prepared to act upon.  I was told to give to others.  Are you kidding me? I was drowning and they wanted me to give???  I had no inner resources left!

I FELT my emotions but I was surrounded by non-feelers, and while I didn’t know it at the time, I needed people to just hold “space” and let me process what was happening.  Only one person ever asked me what I needed during this time but that question was also delivered with a snarky, exasperated tone in her voice.  THAT was the first time anyone asked me what I needed, but it didn’t come across with genuine care.  I couldn’t even answer because I didn’t know what I needed.  I was just hurting so deeply.

In the movie Just Wright, Queen Latifah’s character said “I’m here for you”.  Those words made me cry when I heard them.  I was always the strong one, the rock, and the one that people leaned on for support.  Now I was needy in a big way but this wasn’t my identity and the feelings confused me.  I didn’t know how to get the warm, loving, gentle, and kind support I really needed which at the same time felt uncomfortable.

As I cleaned up my energy using tapping, I eased the grief, the fear, and the devastation that allowed me to feel and identify what I needed.  I needed support not fixing.  I needed to be able to figure out my new life circumstances and to work through my emotions and not be told what I should do.  I needed the freedom to react and process all the emotions and circumstances–not fix anything.  What gets repressed can turn into depression and I was already loaded with that emotion.  I needed to find a way to release the pent up feelings, not ignore them.

When I heard Dr. Christiane Northrup talk about how her own tribe had changed for the better, my heart wept.  I wanted that too.  I tapped on my pain, and after I got some shifting and lifting of the pain, something amazing happened.

As I cleaned up my energy using tapping, I was then able to start creating my new life.  I was able to get clear on what I longed to have and I tapped on it.  My desires started showing up as if by magic!  When those changes happened, I was stunned.  Kindness just because?  Really?  It was uncomfortable for me at first because my subconscious mind and energy didn’t really know how to “do life” with that kind of support.

I began to “attract” kindness, and generous, loving, gentle, people to my life.  I was amazed.  I had “programmed into my energy” what I wanted, and “it” showed up.  I’m not saying that I never had nice people around me, but they were more distant types who closed off their own emotions.  As a result, those people were uncomfortable with so many of my feelings.

It is possible to clean up your energy and subconscious beliefs, release what you don’t want, and to program IN what you do want.  My Design Your Life Now free download on my website homepage can help guide you.

The moral of this story is that when you aren’t getting what you need, clean up your own energy, keep seeking and asking for guidance and pay attention to the signs showing up.  You will know your energy is changing by what manifests and shows up in your world.  As you change your energy, your circumstances change.

Tapping helps release what is unwanted and creates what is wanted.  It’s magical and possible for you too!  Share this article with others for it may help them too!