I’m supposed to be grateful but I don’t feel it. \u00a0That makes me feel even worse!<\/p>\n

Holidays can be wonderful when you are in a great place. \u00a0But what do you do if you are hurting? \u00a0If you have had a loss, or a painful memory is surfacing\u00a0or some trauma or tragedy has happened, you’ve lost your job, someone left you, something bad happened or you feel overwhelmed by life for any reason, this tapping is for you at this holiday time.<\/p>\n

Doesn\u2019t it feel worse\u00a0when you are expected to feel a certain way but you don\u2019t?\u00a0 To make matters worse, you run the risk of being lectured because you don\u2019t feel like \u201cthey or you think you should\u201d?<\/p>\n

It adds insult to an already injured part of you when you feel pressured to feel a certain way.\u00a0 When I was going through a very difficult grief time and I wanted to feel better but couldn\u2019t, people were loaded with suggestions, but none of them felt right to me at the time.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because my feelings weren’t lined up with feeling good.\u00a0 I just couldn\u2019t feel good.\u00a0 When it seemed that no one understood the deep pain I was feeling, I wanted to hide yet I needed to be connected too. \u00a0It was a very confusing and overwhelming time. \u00a0I didn\u2019t even know WHAT I needed, but the pressure to feel grateful or happy made things even worse.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s where tapping comes to the rescue!\u00a0 Below is a tapping script to address some pain that might help ease your feelings.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t know how to tap, you can find an instructional video on my website homepage or on my video page called An intro to Tapping.\u00a0 It will show you how to use this fabulous technique\u00a0and there is some anxiety tapping in that video as well. \u00a0If you have trouble remembering the tapping points, just mute a video and tap along with these words instead.\u00a0 Always feel free to add in your own descriptions and words.\u00a0 Ready?<\/p>\n

Even though it\u2019s holiday time again, and I would love to be able to enjoy them, but I just don\u2019t feel grateful or in the holiday spirit.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0I want to accept my feelings and ease the \u201cshould\u201d pressure.<\/p>\n

Even though I have all these uncomfortable feelings, and even THAT makes me feel worse, I release my own judgement about how I\u2019m feeling.<\/p>\n

Even though I would love to feel grateful but I just don\u2019t.\u00a0 No one else might understand and that makes it so hard on me, but I am going to pay attention to what I need right now.<\/p>\n

EB:\u00a0 All this sadness<\/p>\n

SE: All this worry<\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 All this overwhelm<\/p>\n

Nose: I have some big emotions going on inside<\/p>\n

Chin:\u00a0 All this pain I\u2019m feeling<\/p>\n

CB:\u00a0 Maybe it\u2019s grief, or\u00a0loss<\/p>\n

UA:\u00a0 All the pain that I’m feeling wishing\u00a0things were different<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 It\u2019s all just too much<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 Too much pain to be happy and grateful<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

EB:\u00a0 All these difficult emotions<\/p>\n

SE:\u00a0 I\u2019ve got a bunch of them<\/p>\n

UE: This holiday makes me feel (fill in the blank for you)<\/u><\/p>\n

Nose: I\u2019m hurting and they don\u2019t understand<\/p>\n

Chin:\u00a0 I don\u2019t feel happy or grateful<\/p>\n

CB: This is so hard<\/p>\n

UA:\u00a0 I wish this holiday could feel (fill in the blank for you)<\/u><\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 All this heaviness in my body<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 It\u2019s all too much<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

EB:\u00a0 I hate feeling this way<\/p>\n

SE: I can\u2019t stop feeling this way<\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 What if that is okay to feel this way right now<\/p>\n

Nose:\u00a0 It won\u2019t always be this way<\/p>\n

Chin: Oh yes, it will<\/p>\n

CB: No it won\u2019t<\/p>\n

UA: What if I feel this way for the rest of my life<\/p>\n

Wrist: What if I don’t and I could just focus on today<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 I don\u2019t know what\u00a0the future holds now<\/p>\n

EB:\u00a0 All this sadness & hurt<\/p>\n

SE: \u00a0Maybe I’m angry or stressed at what’s going on<\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 All this anxiety<\/p>\n

Nose:\u00a0 Holiday and family stuff makes me feel (fill in the blank for you)<\/u><\/p>\n

Chin: I feel awful and that\u2019s okay for right now<\/p>\n

CB:\u00a0 Too many emotions<\/p>\n

UA:\u00a0 I wish Thanksgiving felt (fill in the blank for you) <\/u>but it doesn\u2019t<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 and even THAT feeling feels horrible to admit outloud<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 I honor how I feel even if they or I don\u2019t understand it<\/p>\n

EB:\u00a0 All this remaining sadness, or anger, tension and tightness<\/p>\n

SE: All this remaining (fill in the blank with an emotion)<\/u><\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 It\u2019ll never be the same<\/p>\n

Nose:\u00a0 I feel all these emotions in my body (fill in the blank with the part of your body where you are holding the emotion\u2014if you can identify the location)<\/u><\/p>\n

Chin:\u00a0 I miss \u00a0(fill in the blank for you)<\/u><\/p>\n

CB: I\u2019m not feeling grateful, but maybe I can ease this discomfort and pain a little<\/p>\n

UA:\u00a0 No I can\u2019t<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 I can\u2019t release this pain<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 It\u2019s too much<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Take a deep breath\u2026. And don\u2019t judge your reactions and emotions.\u00a0 Just give yourself permission to<\/p>\n

feel what you feel.\u00a0 Only YOU know what\u2019s going on inside your mind and body.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Continue tapping<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

EB: What DO I need right now?<\/p>\n

SE: What would bring me comfort me?<\/p>\n

UE: Nothing!<\/p>\n

Nose: I want to be open to safe comfort<\/p>\n

Chin: What do I need?<\/p>\n

CB:\u00a0 Nothing would feel good right now<\/p>\n

UA: But what if something could help<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 Maybe some music<\/p>\n

Top of head: Maybe to talk to someone<\/p>\n

EB: Maybe I just need to hide out for now<\/p>\n

SE: Maybe being with someone would help\u00a0(fill in the blank for you)<\/u><\/p>\n

UE: Maybe I could feel a little better for just a little while<\/p>\n

Nose:\u00a0 I can\u2019t<\/p>\n

Chin: \u00a0Giving myself permission to feel what I feel<\/p>\n

CB:\u00a0 Maybe I need to be sad or angry<\/p>\n

UA: Alone or connected<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 I will figure this out<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 I\u2019m open to what might help.<\/p>\n

EB: I\u2019m open to other possibilities that might help<\/p>\n

SE: I will feel grateful when I\u2019m ready<\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 Right now, maybe I can\u2019t and that’s okay<\/p>\n

Nose: \u00a0Maybe I could\u00a0watch something to help me feel better-an internet video, a movie<\/p>\n

Chin:\u00a0 They may not like how I\u2019m acting but I can’t help it right now<\/p>\n

CB: So what?<\/p>\n

UA: \u00a0I want to honor what I need<\/p>\n

Wrist:\u00a0 Letting go of some\u00a0tension\u00a0in my body<\/p>\n

Top of head: \u00a0Giving my body permission to relax a little or a lot<\/p>\n

EB: Easing this pain a little more<\/p>\n

SE:\u00a0 Relaxing my body<\/p>\n

UE:\u00a0 Taking care of me in the best way I can<\/p>\n

Nose: Until I really\u00a0can feel grateful<\/p>\n

Chin:\u00a0 I\u2019m okay right now.<\/p>\n

CB:\u00a0 I don\u2019t know how to feel a little better\u00a0or do I<\/p>\n

UA:\u00a0 I\u2019m asking for help to feel better somehow<\/p>\n

Wrist: \u00a0What\u00a0if I could ease these feelings a little even for a little while.<\/p>\n

Top of head:\u00a0 Maybe I CAN find a way to feel a little better with this tapping.<\/p>\n

Take a deep breath\u2026.<\/p>\n

I hope this helps to ease some of the holiday discomfort for you. \u00a0You can tap through the points with this script as many times as it takes and change the words to fit you.<\/p>\n

If you know someone who could use this during this holiday season, please share it with them.\u00a0 You never know how this might comfort someone.<\/p>\n

Sending love to you,<\/p>\n

Joanne<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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