“ADD” anxiety might actually be a “PTSD” response!  What???

I am not a counselor.  I’m an energy coach, so read this as an energy point of view.  When people tell me that they feel like they have ADD, I begin looking for what happened early on in their life.  Where might there be an energy link that trained them to think that postponing getting something done could avoid pain, or where did they see someone else run from this to that without completion, or what might’ve taught them that they had to jump or else…

If you were criticized often as a child, or it felt like you had to deflect “bullets” all the time, you might have developed a pattern of trying to outrun upsetting or “dangerous” outcomes!  You might actually be triggering a PTSD response more than an attention deficit response.  You might have also just downloaded a modeled pattern.

Does this sound like you?  I’m always criticized.  I get so anxious and overwhelmed.  I can’t do anything right.  I’m not god enough.  They are always yelling at me.  Somebody always wants something from me.  If I get this done, then I expect I will get criticized.  If I don’t get it done, then at least I can say I’m not done with it yet and that might feel safer.  I’m a people pleaser.  That’s how I learned to be safe and it works for me.  Really?  Sometimes putting everyone else first became a child’s way to stay safe, to cope or stay out of trouble.

Can you unlearn that pattern so that your needs are met without fear?  Can you really put yourself first without being selfish?  Can you stop running in an “ADD” mode long enough to evaluate whether you like the way you respond or not?

You might’ve developed your scattered pattern from a belief that you SHOULD always respond to everyone’s needs first because that’s what your parent or mentor did.  This becomes an especially important trait and pattern when you really admire and respect the mentor you watched and modeled.  That doesn’t mean it is healthy or in your best interest to continue.  It’s something learned and if it feels good and doesn’t cause your life to spin, or feel out of control, then you might be in balance with it.

I watch so many clients get wrapped up responding to everything and everyone.  They feel worn out because they never realized what is driving their behavior or that it’s even possible to change it.  If you had a “dictator” for a parent or caregiver, you might’ve learned to jump to respond. Then, as an adult, you might have “attracted” dictator type bosses who bully you—because it’s a subconscious pattern.  You might feel powerless and confused, because you don’t realize you can release that energy from your brain, body, and subconscious mind.

How do I do THAT, you ask?  You can get some help from a tapping coach like me.  Patterns, loops, and emotions can be released but many times you need help to do that.  If you’ve developed a pattern, you are probably so “in it”, that you might need help even if you already know tapping.

Imagine what it would be like to feel calm and feel that your choices are honored and respected. Imagine feeling safe, free, and able to decide what you truly want instead of automatically responding.  If you’ve seldom experience that feeling of choice, then you are probably trying to outrun your energy, and you don’t even know it!

What’s the first step to take if you are new to tapping or need some help?  I have a 38 minute audio program that comes complete with tapping instructions that could be a great first step!  I discuss reasons why we learn to take a backseat, and “How To Put Yourself First”, which leads to fulfillment and empowerment.  After some brief explanations, I guide you through some tapping segments to shake up and release some unconscious beliefs, emotions, and patterns.  In just a skootch over a ½ hour, you can begin to feel how and why you do what you do, and how to change your energy, that will bring more peace into your life!  You can tap on your way to work or when you have time to listen and tap along.  If you don’t have ½ hour to spend on improving your life, oh dear, that’s another problem!  Take back your life and start something different.  I’ve seen calm relief come to those who “thought” they had ADD when it turns out that they had an anxiety loop that just needed to be released!  Isn’t that comforting???  Ahhhh…