When their issue becomes yours…

I once had a client tell me that my role as a practitioner could be viewed as the husband who is getting a hellish reaction of his wife in labor!  The wife might be reacting in pain, but when it’s over, there is relief and joy!  I thought that was quite the comparison, and I recognized the parallel!  Yikes!

Clients come to me to help them eliminate negative patterns that are causing them turmoil and life difficulties.  A practitioner can also be the person who gets “the bite” when just “touching” on a raw pattern!  I’ve had clients engage in behaviors with me that have also caused difficulties in their relationships but view it differently when it happens with me.

When I started my business, I had my share of last minute cancelled appointments; some complete no shows without any call to reschedule or acknowledge that they weren’t coming, constant changes of appointments, and also being the recipient when something triggered their protective pattern.  I learned that as a practitioner, I needed to put some boundaries into place—FOR ME…and for them.  I would also start Tapping with the client right then and there, with the words “I’m so angry with Joanne right now because she won’t do what I want”.  They were getting triggered and I was the one right there, so I got the reaction!

I remember seeing a sign that went something like–Your chaos is not my problem!  It is very easy to make our situations roll over to those around us or to take on their issues as our own.  I’ve done it many times myself both ways.  Those situations taught me to ask what I need.  What is going on in me?  Why am I drawing this to me?  What do I need to heal and do differently?  What might this painful situation be showing me that I need to get up and out of my energy?  It’s sometimes tough to do that in the middle of a reaction.  Boy don’t I know it, BUT when you get in the habit of thinking that way, and then Tapping in the moment, you might be surprised at what is revealed.

What do you value the most?  How are you ignoring what you need?  If you are drawing in people who continually cross your boundaries and you keep ignoring those signs, I would almost guarantee that you are sitting on a growing pile of aggravation and hurt.  If I have a client that doesn’t respect my time, guess what?  I might develop an attitude which then, wouldn’t allow me to be the best practitioner to help them.  That wouldn’t serve either of us.

So, let me know, what are doing to ignore your signs?  What are you doing to let them walk on you or how are you staying engaged with people who cause you a lot of pain? What are those signals trying to teach you?  Do you want to keep having that experience or would you rather find a way to clear out the pattern and pain?    I can help you eliminate the loops with Tapping along with my coaching, if you want it!