Are you carrying your family’s generational money pain?

Are you carrying your family’s money pain?  So many people focus on desires, but when they don’t manifest, what do you do next?  Why aren’t things lining up to bring about the desires?  Health, wealth, love, and friendship are among the biggies for desire.  The block isn’t in the symptom, so we’ve got to go deeper to the roots of the “where and why”.  That begins within us internally and energetically.

I think there are some major reasons why situations don’t show up and manifest.  Today, I want to talk about family modeling and money.

Before the age of seven, our brainwave state is like a sponge.  Things we see, feel, hear, and experience, unknowingly become our window to how the world works.  If it’s a good view, that’s great.  What happens though, when it’s a bad view or you see a view of the world that you don’t want?

My Dad was a great man, and I loved him dearly. He had determination, a loving heart, guts, desire and I saw him take risks.  I also know that he carried a jealous, frustrated dislike for those who had money.  It was so strong, in fact, that I CLEARLY remember saying to him that I’d rather be happy and poor than rich and miserable.  I would suspect that I picked that up from him.  I am not blaming, just understanding where and why I picked up that association.  Why did I have an either/or mentality with money vs. a thought such as, I could be rich AND happy?    Because rich wasn’t comfortable with my Dad and I honoring his pattern and belief subconsciously, all while carrying my own conflict about wealth.  Remember, this isn’t about logic.  I am sharing how energetic downloads happen and how they grow within us unconsciously.

Modeling is NOT CONSCIOUS.  It happens quite like osmosis where we take on beliefs without question.  When I was in sales, I had fun, and I was making easy money.  Then came the guilt…Easy money?  Was I on my way to becoming one of those rich people that Dad talked about with disgust?  Oh no…

I didn’t know it then, but I was clearly having an internal conflict with money as if making a great income was a bad thing.  To add salt to the unconscious wound, I had co-workers who also didn’t like how well I was doing because I was surpassing them in sales in a short amount of time.  I became a target and was definitely excluded and it deeply affected me.  It was another symptom of my unconscious attachments to money.

I had a big tug of war going on inside because I had this old unconscious programming.  It was like hitting an invisible wall as if to say, I shouldn’t have fun AND make great money.  Yet I could also look at top sales people or wealthy folks with the internal feeling of, “If THEY can do it, so can I.”  It was like they were showing me what was possible and I wanted to know more so I could experience the same results.  It was POSSIBLE but at the same time, it wasn’t “right”!  What an internal pickle!  Can you relate to any of this?  If not with money, how about with love?  This conflict could apply to any topic of desire.

Anyone who reads my blogs or hears me talk, knows I love tapping.  I’ve seen it work miracles so often that I can’t help but want people to know about it.  We can use it to change just about anything!  In my own desire to reframe and shift my internal money/wealth conflicts, I instead wanted my reality to include both wealth with safety.  I wanted to release my own nervous reactions to THEIR painful reactions of my achievements.  I needed to go to my own energy and subconscious reactions to change, unlink and unlearn what didn’t fit ME.  Once any of us do that, our outside world magically changes.  Yes, I said magically.

I went to brunch with four family members from my father’s side, and as we were talking, I got curious.  Did they ever think about being wealthy?  What were their beliefs?  Three people at the table were depression babies with the fourth member being 10 years younger than me.  Family modeling showed up screaming.  NOT ONE of those four people ever thought about being wealthy.  I couldn’t believe it.  It’s one thing to dream and maybe not achieve, but I was shocked that it never even entered their minds!  I heard beliefs such as, “I wanted just enough” or “I want to do better”, but wealth wasn’t part of the thought process.  OMG, I heard my Dad say some of the same things they brought up!  “I want to make this much, so I can cover the bills”!!!  Well now, where do you think THAT energy intent will get ya?!   You will probably make enough to cover the bills but not much more!

These are not stupid people and in fact, they are all quite brilliant but they don’t know about energy attachments!  These are people who have limiting beliefs about money, wealth, and they all carry the energy of “they have it and I’m jealous”!  Somehow it wasn’t surprising yet it was still shocking at the same time.  THAT, my friends, is an example of downloading family money patterns.  “I want it, but it doesn’t occur to me how to get it or believe I CAN have it.”  As a short discussion continued, I heard more “family” money beliefs rise to the surface. I was truly stunned and felt sort of saddened. Their lives, as well as my mothers’ family, was all about survival.  Thriving never even entered their minds.

Energetic downloads are powerful and at the very least, they cause internal confusion about our desires.  They can also be powerful enough to stop us dead in our tracks and prevent our dreams.  My Dad seemed to strive but I don’t know that he ever really thought he could actually achieve wealth.  I have no idea where I got the inclination to consider if “they could do it, so could I” because I saw lots of proof at the family brunch that I was the only one who considered that thought.  WOW!

As I look back to my life before sales, I wasn’t really exposed to possibilities to achieve wealth.  That sounds crazy to me now, but it just wasn’t even on my radar screen.  Catholic school and church was all about a poverty mentality and suffering, or “it’s better to give than to receive”.

My Mom’s money experiences were even worse than Dad’s.  She was a very classy lady, but her upbringing was very poor and her family stood in soup lines that shammed and embarrassed her.  Well THAT’s not happy money energy either!!!  Yikes…I was surrounded.  No wonder I had the conflict when I loved my sales jobs and made great money.  I had such confusing guilt!  My desires and beliefs were in total conflict with my family’s money energy.

Of course, the same can happen in reverse where you might’ve never ever considered being anything but wealthy.  It’s the other side of the coin and it happens too.  Then, there are the “in between” people who are determined to be rich, and work themselves silly despite having immense wealth.  It’s not about logic.  This is about energy.

We’ve heard about the curse of many lottery winners where they lose all of their money.  Why?  Because if the internal energy doesn’t line up with knowing how to be safe and comfortable being wealthy, there is a misalignment internally.  How about NFL, NBA, or any other sports figures who lose their wealth.  I would guess they are out of alignment with their wealth.

Do you want to change your situation?  Do you even know what you would have to believe in order to create your desires?  The first step is awareness and then comes the process to change with TAPPING!  What family downloads of energy do you have around money?  Trust me, you are not the only one in your energy!  Bet you never knew that, did you?

Why waste your time working on the symptom of what you want, when you can clear and open up the energy of abundance?  You get to choose.  Doesn’t that feel powerful?  Doesn’t that give you hope and insight that YOU can change things?

Instead of feeling envious, open up your awareness to, what are they doing that I could be doing too?  What do they believe that I don’t?  Those answers are now your tapping targets that can be energetically and subconsciously cleared.  Solutions are waiting for you.

What will you do now?  Awareness is one thing, but you’ve got to DO something about your energy.  Buy one of my products.  Call me for coaching.   DO something to start the change.  Of course you could continue to hit the same blocks, and walls.  That is an option!

Once you begin tapping, you will never look at life in the same way.  You will grow your internal power and then miracles start to show up EASILY.  That’s when you KNOW you are connecting with your True Authentic Power!  …and it feels amazing!!!