Does your family feels toxic to you?

On some level, all of us want the feeling of a close, comforting family.  What do you do when you often feel badly around your own family?

When I was working with my own coach, doing my own personal sessions to clear out my negative patterns, my Tapping Coach made a BIG distinction for me in a session.  I have family members who’ve carried jealousy and envy toward me, and that began when I was very little.  When a big, traumatic event took place in my life, I not only felt abandoned by these family members, but I also felt emotionally attacked.  In a Tapping session, I said–out loud–how can people be so mean?  I felt a HUGE shake up in my belief system when my coach said, it’s not PEOPLE.  It is members of your family.

What happened for me in that moment was so important.  There is a difference between SOME people (and in this case, family) and ALL people.  The “SOME” people, happened to be some of my relatives.  That distinction made me wake up to a belief that I had been SUBCONSCIOUSLY carrying in me, from the time I was a little girl.  If family members treat me with disrespect and disregard me, then THE WORLD will treat me like that too.  Was that true?  No, but because subconsciously,  I BELEVED it was true, I was putting out an energy that would draw that reality to me.  That’s how energy works.  What we believe on the inside, is what shows up outside of us in our world.  I am very grateful for that distinction.  It made me question.  It made me Tap.  It made me change my energetic beliefs and emotions, which changed my results.

What can a painful family look and feel like?  Pain isn’t just about physical pain.  Do they find ways to put you down?  Do you feel emotionally drained by them?  Do they take advantage of you?  Do you always have to DO something to feel loved or included by them?  Is your relationship nurturing in reciprocal ways?  Do they expect things from you….money, or constant help?  Are you drowning and they can’t even see it and don’t even acknowledge you?  Do you find comfort when they are around or feel put upon?  Do you feel safe and have an easy feeling around them or do you feel an under current of being on edge?  Do you wish the relationship were different?  Do you have trouble saying NO to them?

So what do you do if your family feels painful to you?  If you are accustomed to being hurt, you will attract people that will hurt you.  If you are grieving, you will most likely attract others who are grieving on some level.

How can a Tapping Coach help?  A skilled coach will hear the blocks, and assist in helping you Tap through them.  When you release that negativity, a different reality WILL show up.  Your “loving family” can now be “created” from people who love you, nurture you, support you, and understand you, even if they are NOT blood related.  Imagine how that could feel to you?  Imagine feeling an ease in your body, feeling loving and loved while being free to be yourself!  It’s a FABULOUS feeling and I wish that for all of you!