When the people you love, hold you back…

It’s heartbreaking when the people we love hold us back.  I think on some level, we all hold the belief that if you love me, you will support my goals and dreams, right?  Part of that may be true, but there is more to the story and it can be a difficult reality for some.

When we uncover or learn new ways that jazz us about life, and living, it’s natural to want to share it with others and especially with those we love.  It’s a nice idea but it’s not always a good idea depending upon their reactions.  They can be very hurtful and surprising.  I experienced this first hand and I know I am not alone.

When talking to many others who are reaching for their dreams, it is VERY common for those closest to us, to sabotage us, or hold us down.  It’s often not even because of a reaction against us, but THEY are getting triggered by all of THEIR feelings about our path.  It is so common but it’s not really personal against us.  Well, it feels personal but it’s not about us.  It’s about them!  The sooner you understand this, the better your life will be.

When I started learning about energy and the power it had in our lives, I was excited.  I was being exposed to amazing new ideas, and I wanted to share those experiences.  I’ve never been a secretive person about my experiences so it took me a while to understand the importance of keeping my dreams safe.  It felt unnatural for me and in some ways, it still does.  It’s not about keeping a secret as much as it is protecting my path and journey.

Everyone’s got an opinion and when our path doesn’t resonate with comfort in them, it is possible to feel even more resistance from loved ones.  When our path is threatening to them in some way, they may be wondering, will you leave me?  Will you shine a light on what is possible that I didn’t do?  Will you trigger my regret? Will your dreams take you to places I wanted to go, but couldn’t?

It’s common for parents to say that they want a better life for their children, and on some level, they often do.  It is also common, however, for parents and friends to negatively react when you do things that they wished they had done but never got to do or weren’t brave enough to do.  It’s not always easy to distinguish what emotions are theirs and what emotions are yours when they all get so intertwined.

Maybe this will help you stay your path.  When you consider what you want to do, does it feel light?  Does it energize you?  Does it bring you joy?  Is it safe, and healthy? If you said yes, then why wouldn’t your closest family and friends, want that kind of experience for you?

You cannot control their reactions, but you can protect your path.  Here are some tips.

• If you know they will criticize your ideas, share only with people who will support your ideas.
• If you know that they “punish you” by being distant or ignoring you when you are excited, find other people who will honor your excitement.
• If they never got to do what you are doing, and you know they are still in pain over it, share your journey with others that can encourage you!

Dreams need protection, encouragement and positivity around them.  It’s scary to stretch out of your comfort zone, and people who add more fear are not helping you.  You know how the saying goes.  If you think you can, you can.  If you think you can’t, you can’t.

Tapping can change the energy within you to get comfortable with your boundaries to keep the naysayers at bay.  It can be done, but you need to change or undo any patterns of “misery loves company”.  You can’t fly with the eagles if you are pecking on the ground with chickens.  Gosh, those sayings really do apply, don’t they?

I know you want to share your excitement but also protect your dreams.  They are part of your soul.  Nurture them and share them with those who are also moving forward and loving it.  That way, you and your dreams will feel safe.

T. Harv Eker is a very successful business teacher and coach.  He too, shares what happens to “them” when you go for your dreams. You can read the article here! 

Till next time, here’s to your True Authentic Power!!