Conversations for MEN by MEN Brings Comfort!

Men “feel” emotions just like women do.  Our differences are greatly influenced by modeling and programming.  Men and women are taught differently but they are not so different inside.

When I first started my own coaching business, I didn’t know I would have so many more women than men as clients.  What was even more unexpected, was the number of men who came to me but got “freaked” out by the strong emotions that surfaced quickly while tapping.  I was struck by how men are so very similar to women when talking about feelings.  However, because boys are taught to shut down, hide their feelings, and deny them, my perception was that men are different from women.  I suspect that the reason men die younger than woman is because they stuff the emotions that get locked up in the body without ever finding relief.

People are meant to bond, connect, share and belong.  When we can’t do that, feelings build up and cause symptoms to give notice that something is out of balance.  Those symptoms can show up physically, mentally, in our relationships, careers and can even be reflected through money!

In my coaching sessions, tapping shakes up feelings that rise to the surface in the first session.  Several of my male clients were so shocked that they never came back.  You could see them fighting tears, holding back and really working to shove those reactions down.  The facial reaction of shock and shame came through very clearly, as if to say, “Where did all THAT come from?”  It happens for many of us when tapping.

I have often wondered how to engage men to provide an avenue for them to feel and release their painful experiences and pent up emotions.  Modeling has shown all of us how to live in the world.  Few of us are ever taught, however, how to release what doesn’t work, and open up the space for what we do want.  That’s a HUMAN experience and is not related to gender.

I am a tapping expert and I see lives change all the time.  I can only work with people who show up and want more in their life and yet, positive shifts are good for all of us.

It is understandable how shocking the unexpected surfacing of emotions can be in a tapping session, so initial conversations are really needed.  I recently saw a new addition for men that I want to share even though I don’t know the hosts of the show.  They host a conversational show by men for men.  We can’t get to the nitty gritty issues without first opening up the conversations that allow us to feel safe and acknowledge what’s going on inside.  My hope is that people will share this info so that we can bond as humans in a much healthier, happier, and more comfortable way.

Though this conversational show is geared for men, I think women could learn a lot as well.  The show is called “Real Men Feel”.  You can listen here! 

Is it time to open up to what’s really going on inside, and clear the pain to live more authentically?