When the “good old” ways no longer work. What then? 

What do you do when the good old ways no longer work?  What then?  

We are creatures of habit.  We are creatures that do what was modeled for us.  We may even realize that an old behavior isn’t working, (and didn’t work for our role models either) and still, we act as if we have no choice or power to change.  Have you ever noticed that?  Have you ever seen yourself do or say the SAME THINGS your Mom or Dad used to say?  That’s modeling!  It’s an unconscious pattern and behavior, of what has been passed down almost through osmosis that we carry on.  The question of the hour is, why do we keep doing what DOESN’T WORK?

You might not even be aware that you are doing this.  I didn’t pay attention to what I modeled or mimicked until I became a tapping expert.  Let me give you a silly example.

I loved my Dad very much and I know I modeled him in many ways both consciously and unconsciously.  He wore reading glasses and he used to put the end of the earpiece in his mouth once in a while in between reading.  For some reason, I thought that looked cool and since I wore glasses, I picked up the “modeling” and did the same as Dad.  I wanted to be cool like him.  One day in dance class, my teacher asked me, “Does that taste good”?  It stunned me.  Why would I do that?  Because my loving Dad did it.  Now that’s a simple example, but let’s take a look at a stronger and more important pattern.

I saw some adults have minimal fun and playtime compared to their hard work.  There was also an anchoring of fun with resentment.  The underlying and unspoken, yet loud message was, if I can’t have fun, you shouldn’t either.  If I’m unhappy, you should be too!  It was modeled for me.

Let’s talk about money.  I heard plenty of phrases and frustration about money and resentment against those that had it or attained it easily.  Guess what?  When I became successful in sales EASILY, I got a boatload of other people’s frustration, resentment, and attacks.  That’s what my subconscious learned about money, so I began to intertwine success with pain that came from THEIR REACTIONS!

I didn’t know about all this until I got into energy work, and specifically tapping.  It is common to see little children mimic and sometimes, it’s obvious that they can’t possibly realize what they are really saying or doing.  They just pick up attitudes and behaviors unknowingly.  What have you been fighting against that you saw them fight against?  What have you mimicked in your life that doesn’t serve you and didn’t work for them either?

As I started to learn how to change my money views and see the pattern that I unconsciously created, I realized that my success was intertwined pain, suffering and anger.  If they didn’t have it, I wasn’t supposed to either.  I couldn’t change what I didn’t know was in my way.  What have you anchored together that doesn’t serve you?

I got to know some extended family members after my parents passed away.  By this time, I’d done some tapping to reveal and release old emotions, and beliefs.  When we talked about money, guess what showed up in their conversational attitudes?  Feelings of suffering, not having enough, anger and jealousy for those who have if “we” don’t!  Oh my goodness!  The GENERATIONAL PATTERN was imbedded and pervasive even in my extended family!  Those money beliefs started in generations before my parents and that’s known as a generational download.

What patterns are you modeling, that you do unconsciously, that aren’t serving you?  Did you learn to come last?  Did you learn to be the doormat?  Did you learn to associate money with anger, pain, suffering, and hard work?  The good old ways, were shown to you by people who did the best they could with what they knew.  That doesn’t mean, however, that they learned the best way to have a happy, healthy, and abundant life.

If your role models always talked about lack, you probably learned about lack.  If they talked about or demonstrated fighting to you, then you probably learned that too.  The question is, do YOU want to live in the ways that were modeled for you?  You have a choice you know, but you might not know how to change it.  You can release your automatic default and reset your energy and subconscious patterns.  You can also program into your energy what you want your life to look like.

You might be asking, so what do I do now?  You’ve got to somehow change your beliefs, your energy, and your automatic default pattern.  How do you do that?  You use and switch your energy with tapping!  This can be the tricky part.  You might be so used to living in an automatic way, that you aren’t even aware of the family patterns, or how you live them daily.  When you are in patterns, you are not likely to see them or know how to change them!  Even when you see that you are recreating unwanted patterns, you might keep falling back into the old stuff.  That’s when you know YOUR ENERGY IS STUCK, but there is hope!

Here’s another interesting pattern to observe.  What does your family do about health?  How do they live?  Did you see healthy living, physical activity, sickness, vibrancy, chronic health issues…?  People talk about heredity but I refer instead to unconscious patterns and unresolved emotions.  Just like the eyeglass or money example, you might have downloaded an expected pattern of illness, labeled it heredity, but that totally takes away your power and choice!  Examples?  I have knee problems just like my parents, or diabetes runs in my family, or I have “such and such” like “so and so”.  Does that have to be your truth?  When I talk about beliefs, I’m talking about those inner assumptions and hidden patterns that we know nothing about consciously.  When you start to question and seek to do things differently, there are ways to change how you want to live YOUR life.

What are you doing that doesn’t work for you?  It might not have worked for “them” either, so why continue to do things that way?  Are you fighting against the same “fight” they did?  Are you enjoying a fulfilling, connected, healthy, abundant life?  If not, do you WANT to?  Then you have to shift some energetic and subconscious beliefs.  The quicker you do that, the faster you will understand the impact of what is working, what isn’t working and how to change it.

Tapping is a technique that reveals, shifts and changes those unwanted patterns.  Of course, you could keep on doing the same old same old, hating it, feel frustrated by it, and wishing it were different.  You DO have a choice.  Are you open to new ways, even if you don’t know how they might happen?  Tapping changes lives, patterns, stuck energy, and painful emotions.  We can also program in the good stuff!   Don’t you wonder what you could create by changing your energetic patterns?

Read the following words slowly and let them sink in.  Sadness, sorrow, unhappiness, woe, discouragement misery, agitation, pleasure, excitement, triumph, thrill, exhilaration, euphoria… Could you feel a change within you as you read all of the words?  That’s energy for you and you use it all the time.  Why not start using it for what you DO want?

What would you choose to release, and what would you want to create?!  Start asking, start tapping, and I’ll see you in the higher vibrations of your True Authentic Power!!!