Programming, Patterns, and Powerlessness…oh my!

Nobody wants to hang on to issues, emotions, problems and situations that cause pain.  So?  Why CAN’T we “let them go”?  First of all, I want to say that I have been a MASTER at having trouble “letting some things go”.  I also know that when I can’t let something go, or move on from it, there is a subconscious protection in place for some reason.  While that hidden reason can also drive me nuts, I know it’s there to help in some unknown way until I can heal the reason for the resistance.  When that happens, I go to my “WHY  am I feeling this way” mode, to figure out what I need to do, or why the issue needs to stay in place, or what I am believing about it that is serving me.

As a practitioner, I will just say, that it can be so frustrating when I am not moving off the mark for some reason.  I also know though, that I CAN EASILY move forward when the energy of resistance is cleared.

I had one such block very recently and here’s what I learned.  I have been struggling with some family “stuff” since I was little so this is an OLD issue.  I want you to keep in mind that when programming gets anchored in childhood, you can remain stuck in a child’s rationale and problem solving skills.

As a very young girl, I knew what and who felt safe or didn’t.  What happens in many homes is that people think that young children don’t have that kind of capability to choose or decide for themselves…and sometimes they can’t (candy or veggies is a good example).  A child can feel unheard or disregarded.  How many times have you heard, oh they won’t understand or know; they are too young.  I’ve got news for you folks.  Children and pets use different senses to feel, or know what is safe or not, and what feels good or not.  Their feelings are often times ignored.  This is not about blame toward anyone.  This is about adults not realizing that children have their own “knowing” but in different and sometimes limited ways.

Let me give you an example.  Here’s this little child who goes off to school, and they might be frightened by how the teacher treats them, or how some other student is bullying them, and then they act out in some way.  It might look like crying on the playground when they should be having fun, or anger outbursts, shutting down, craving junk food, or being angry.  A child doesn’t have the ability to explain, and articulate what they need so they react with THEIR limited skills at the time.  If their attempts to express themselves is honored and understood, the outcome and resolution is good.  When they get ignored, misunderstood, or punished for their behavior, they don’t know what to do and neither do the adults around them.  Then the idea of drugs, punishment, or just ignoring what the child is trying to convey, comes into play.  None of those solutions really gets to the reason for a change in behavior.

In these situations when we’ve been ignored in childhood, beliefs about ourselves get formed, such as, I’m not good enough, or I don’t matter, or what can I do to please you so you will notice and love me???  See how that goes?  The ENERGY of those beliefs is now stuck and once the child grows up, now you have an adult with the misunderstanding that— I’m not good enough, or I don’t matter, or I’m stupid, or they don’t love me, or what can I do to please you so you will notice and love me?  It becomes a locked in PROGRAM and PATTERN.  We all get them in one way or another.  How do you think money blocks are formed????

The loop can now be stuck in place for years on end.  Though you might be a very smart, capable, and loving adult (while still stuck in your childlike energy) you can’t seem to overcome the loop that keeps replaying in your subconscious mind.  The question is, how do you REMOVE it or “let it go” now?

You might not even know what beliefs you formed in childhood and yet, they are ruling your life!  That’s where the beauty of Tapping and the skill of a Tapping coach makes a huge difference.  I work with my own Tapping coach because I can’t always see or realize what is in my way!  When you Tap and start to get to the old childhood feelings, you begin to RELEASE the emotional hurt of not feeling or being heard, so you can shift to a different energy.  When that happens, you can see and feel differently about people and situations—from powerlessness to confidence.

The reason for understanding programs and patterns is not to blame anyone.  Most parents don’t have a guidebook of how to raise children or what is best to do or not to do.  They do what they know how to do—both good and bad, and many times, it might not be so good!  Still, if you can’t “let something or someone go” it’s because something in your subconscious is telling you “it’s” not right, safe, or in my best interest to let it go.

When you release the old programs, patterns, and emotions, amazing changes start to happen.  Why?  Because now you are in a different energy and mindset.  Tapping changes your energy, which changes how you view situations, which changes your behavior, which changes the people, places and situations that you DRAW TO YOU!  Ahhhhhh….then relief and joy comes…..

You can learn Tapping on your own, but trying to overcome long standing issues without the expertise of a Tapping coach, is very tough.  I consider myself a very skilled practitioner, yet, I have my own coach….because I can’t always “get to” the underlying stuff causing me distress!

You have a choice now that you know there is a technique that can change and release that old stuff. Will you stay stuck, or invest in your life with a coach, so you can blossom into the best you were put on this earth to be!  It is YOUR CHOICE NOW that you know there is a reason and a solution!  If you have struggled to let something go up till now, there is a way to release it!

What did you learn in the post above? What are you having trouble letting go of in your life?   How long are you willing to live with it?  How is it affecting your body?  Are you committed to changing this?  When?