When their competition and conflict becomes your pain—what to do!

During my sales career, I changed products and companies, but I rose to the top every time.  Once I got my confidence legs underneath me, I went for big “fish”.  I was well liked by co-workers UNTIL I started excelling and showing my expertise as I advanced beyond senior sales reps.  I didn’t step on toes, but I was powerful once I found my rhythm that brought results.

I went from being well liked, to being competition, a threat, the enemy, and I was shunned. I was the same person before my success who was liked but now that I showed my strengths, I became the target of their conflict and competition about my success.

Who wants to be excluded for being good at what you do, right?  It became a real internal struggle for me and I had no idea that I was taking on THEIR reactions and feelings so deeply.  Their conflict about my success starting eroding my comfort and success happiness.

There will always be people who won’t put in their own effort yet, become wildly jealous and complain about your success.  This pattern happened many times and I know it happens to others as well.

So what do you DO about it?

You work on your own internal energy, and reactions.  When you realize that you are responsible for YOUR feelings and actions, and they are responsible for theirs, a clarity and shift shows up.  Undesirable patterns begin in many ways and often times stem back to early childhood.  An example could be something like:  when I got something “they” didn’t have, I was “punished” in some way (tricked, teased, and hurt by their behavior).  You might be saying, but that’s what kids do. Yes, that’s true but the internal effect can develop a pattern that, unknowingly, links PAIN to an outcome.

To get past this replaying “loop” about success, I had to unweave and dissolve the belief I had about it.  Just like you can anchor a song to a wonderful memory, you can also link pain to success.

My reactions need to be MY focus and their reactions, need to be theirs.  Easy, right?  No, and for many people, a negative and detrimental pattern can retrigger you over and over.  Once a negative association is in place, you may find yourself hitting walls, sabotaging results, or feeling emotionally crushed wondering why this pattern keeps happening.  This loop can apply to ANY situation….career, money, love, skills, relationships….you name it and people can get stuck and wonder what the heck is wrong with them.

Once you get clear on what is going on internally, you can use tools to RELEASE a replaying pattern.  Depending upon the severity and PAIN associated with that pattern, it might be slight or severe.  However, when you have had the same painful experience over and over, your unconscious mind starts to protect you as if to say, don’t GO THERE!!!!!  The sabotage, the kinks in the road and the automatic triggered responses, are all designed to HELP you, to protect you and to keep you safe.

You can release painful associations to your desires.  The reason I love tapping so much is because it takes care of the loop, the pain, and it cuts the ties that have become unconsciously automatic.

I’ve seen 3 distinct avenues that require attention for clean-up and reversal.

1. Modeling–When did it start? Did you see some childhood modeling of similar situations?  Did you experience it yourself at home, school or in some other way?
2. Emotions–What emotions have you attached to this “situation”? (Fear, anger, frustration, confusion heartache, sadness, grief…)
3. Patterns–What perceived patterns are in your way, because of so many replays? E.g. When I do or go for (desire) _____, I feel (emotion) ______, because I am convinced that (this pain) ________will happen. It becomes part of your belief system before you know it.  Then you begin to ATTRACT more of the same results because something is “stuck”.  Great, huh?

Many big internet marketers talk about pushing through fear because you are just looking for excuses and being lazy.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  When FEAR of any outcome becomes SOOOO attached to painful expectations in your unconscious mind, you will stop dead in your tracks from your desires.  This is NOT about logic or intelligence and everyone’s level of reaction is so unique based on their make-up and past experiences.

When you use the right tools to clear the modeling, emotions and patterns, it’s amazing how easily things fall into place.  When you address your triggers about their reactions, you regain confidence, and your boundaries become clear.  More importantly, you won’t attract those kinds of reactions, or they won’t bother you.  That’s why Tapping is also known as (EFT) Emotional Freedom Techniques.

Time doesn’t stand still and you could be replaying the same frustrations years from now unless you clear them out!  It is exhausting to fight deep levels of resistance.  When you are “fighting” against internal struggles, it makes you feel old, tired, and worn out.  Depending upon the severity of your anchoring, it can require the energy of holding 15 beach balls under water all the time.  When you no longer have to hold down and resist, it’s amazing to feel the lifting of that burden and energy return!

My Catapulting To Confidence program is loaded with ways to clear modeling, emotions, and perceived perceptions that will change your life!  Best of all, I don’t believe there is another product like it.  What makes it so different?  You see an ENTIRE CLIENT JOURNEY, step by step AND you also use the videos at the same time.  You will understand the twists and turns along with seeing her results and feeling yours.  It’s very unique and powerful.

1. What is “it” that is costing your health and finances to replay the same painful loops?
2. How is it draining your energy to cope with these replays?
3. How is it preventing you from having a joyful life?
4. How many more years will you spend unconsciously blocking your desires—10, 20, 30 years?

I promise you.  Unless you release that unwanted energy, your patterns will most likely continue to gain momentum like a snowball rolling downhill getting bigger and more powerful in detrimental ways!

Take action NOW, don’t wait.  Your life is waiting!