Are You Unconsciously Being Their Scapegoat?

No one really likes to be a scapegoat.  Some people might label the below symptoms as people pleasing.  I want you to go deeper into a pattern that you might have taken on that you don’t realize.

Do you get blamed, yelled at, or become the fall guy, when it’s not your fault?  Do they finger point at you, when it’s really their problem?  Have you gotten the label of being the wrong one in the relationship or friendship?

It’s not healthy or good for you to remain in that position with them or them with you.  How do you get out of being the scapegoat?

Pay attention to the below symptoms, because chances are, you might not even realize that it’s become your pattern and way of being.

Not sure of possible scapegoat or people pleasing symptoms?

• Do you find yourself holding back what you really feel or think so that you won’t upset them?
• Do you find yourself not saying what you really feel or mean?
• Are you more conscious of their feelings over yours?
• Do they “attack” either verbally or in other ways?
• Do you feel you can’t be yourself around them?
• Does connection with them feel strained and uncomfortable?
• Do you see their phone number come up and feel “heavy” about it vs. feeling “light” and excited the connection?
• Do you feel unimportant around them?
• Do they need to one up you or be the authority over you?
• Do you feel disconnected from them?
• Do you feel your relationship is out of balance?
• Do they seem to be unhappy when you succeed?
• Do they show little support for what’s important to you?
• Will they be bothered if you really act like yourself?
• Do they point fingers at you for something that is clearly something bothering them?
• Do you feel bullied by their opinion?

If what you say and do bothers them, it is their issue to clean up.  If their reaction bothers you, then YOU have some energy clearing to do.  There is a misalignment for some reason but it could be an avenue of needed shifts and growth.

Being a scapegoat is not helpful to anyone in the situation.  It’s not your job to protect another adult.  Something or someone might have taught you that in order to be safe or included, you have to please or protect them and even worse, give up being who you are in the process.  The pattern can develop from being the youngest, or the smallest or in some other ways.  If it happens enough, it becomes a belief, which then becomes a pattern which then become a behavior.  You are now programmed to “be this way” in life.

Did you get picked on by others as a child?  Did siblings overpower you?  Did you learn that they don’t honor your feelings or choice so you also learned not to do that yourself?  Did someone make you feel it was your fault or responsibility when you were young?  Were you labeled the wrong one, when a disagreement happened?

These are all loops and patterns that you may have taken on unknowingly BUT they can be unlearned and you CAN align with the right people, places and situations that honor who you are.  How?

By doing this technique called Tapping.  It not only removes old programmed behaviors from your subconscious, but you can also program INTO your energy what will replace those old patterns.  It’s amazing to watch people change the deeply embedded stuff.  It amazing to feel the changes within us when those shifts happen internally!

When you change your energy and inner beliefs, people, places and situations change easily to what you want.  You will feel lifted, more empowered, and encouraged to see what else you can change that has been waiting for your energetic alignment!  Here’s to your True Authentic Power!