The Turnaround from Devastation

How do we turnaround from devastation?  Some people don’t but they could if they had the right tool.  At one time or another, all of us have some devastating events happen in our life.  I will also add that what might be devastating to YOU, might not seem like a big deal to someone else.  It doesn’t matter.  Whatever you are feeling, it is so important to honor it, feel it and then tap on it, to move it out of your energy and subconscious mind.  It is because of stuck energy and the beliefs that we hold as true, that we stay looped in pain.

I went through a block of time that absolutely devastated me.  D E V A S T A T E D ME.  I also had a very hard time getting past it to the healing part because it literally changed just about every aspect of my life.  I don’t know if you’ve ever gone through something that affected your relationships, your survival, your way of being, and everything else at the same time, but it’s beyond shocking and certainly very hard.  I NOW realize, that it was happening for something within me to create a much better way of being and living.

Safety seeks familiarity.  Familiarity might even be uncomfortable, but it’s what we know, expect, and how we’ve learned to live.  When what we know is taken away, boy does life feel shaky!  It also creates a great opportunity for growth, expansion and to clear out what we have been holding onto that really might be working against us.

How many times have you lived your life for someone else’s approval?  How many times have you felt like you had to  “fight” against something or someone to be who you really are?  Why would you be holding onto to people, places and situations that are not in your highest or best good, or simply aren’t growing in the ways you are growing?  Why do you think or feel that you need what really doesn’t feel good to you?

One of the hardest things that I had to realize is that when people, places and situations have served their purpose OR we are growing out of alignment with each other or those situations, it is time to move on.  It can almost feel like being pushed “out of a nest” or being pulled apart.  I’ve also learned that unless we change our internal subconscious beliefs and energy, it is not likely that anything will change with ease.

How much does fear work on you, and hold you back?  If at some level you don’t feel safe, or think you can’t do, have or be what you desire, you will resist and resist and resist what you say you want.  Believe me, I’ve seen this over and over again with clients and in myself too.  It’s a pickle and beyond frustrating.

What if though, you could change your inner energetic beliefs to have a new reframe, a new story, a new way of believing?  If you are preventing something in your life or if life has handed you a very difficult situation, when you tap on those feelings, you can start to change the reasons and the energy that keeps the discomfort in place.

Think of something you want to change.  It could be anything in any part of your life.  Tune into that desire.  Now ask, WHY would I want to keep this in place?  How is it serving me? What will I have to face if I go near this resistance?

For me, when all of my life changed by external events, I had the most difficult time just getting through the tragedies, and I couldn’t even begin to change old patterns.  It is the earliest childhood patterns, however, that anchor misinformation and old beliefs that can hurt us.  It was all I could do to try to heal and understand the pain of losses…so my old childhood patterns weren’t MOVING and RESOLVING.

Meanwhile, I watched client after client, change and have amazing results.  THAT was so difficult to see happen when I was not progressing in the way I wanted. …and I was doing a LOT of tapping with coaches.  Yes, I saw some improvements in some ways, but not the changes I was seeking to feel.

Why wasn’t it happening?

I can’t tell you all the times I asked THAT question.  It wasn’t until I got some “safety” and resolution on how to live in my new life, and in my new shoes, that I was able to go deeper into the root causes and beliefs.  I wanted to get there sooooo badly, but NOT GETTING there was actually a protection.

We have a pain threshold and a limit of just how much we can handle.  When we hit that limit, it seems like our world and our life comes to a standstill because something inside just can’t handle any more.

That’s why tapping is soooo important.  If you keep getting dumped on with undesirable life situations or people, that pain overwhelm builds and builds up until you feel stuck with a capital S!!!  Do you know that feeling?  Think of a trash compactor or garbage can.  When it’s full, it’s full.  You cannot keep putting things in it and think that there won’t eventually be a limit and overflow.

Our minds, our bodies, and our lives act the same.  You can’t keep ignoring painful, difficult, or draining situations or people because over time, you will hit your limit.  When you do, it will show up in illness, or not able to move forward as much as you THINK you want to, or by wanting to just hide from life.  That is your life telling you that you are at your limit.  It’s time to consider how to turn around the devastation that has built up.

The technique of tapping does just that.  It neutralizes and releases those hurts, pains, and ways that you have suffered.  It uncovers the limiting beliefs you have, that keep your patterns in place.  You might start asking, why do I need this?  How does it protect me?  What am I perceiving will happen if I go near these memories or situations?  Will the pain be too great?  How is it better to stay where I am in my life rather than go for my dreams?

There is some reason why you can’t go forward and it’s not about logic, intellect or conscious reasoning.  It is because SOMETHING SOMEWHERE inside of you says it’s not right, it’s not possible, you don’t deserve it, or you shouldn’t go near this situation in order for you to feel safe or happy.  Humans avoid pain.  I certainly was in avoidance UNTIL I could clear enough of the devastation to then really do some energy clean up.  I understand this process first hand and have lived the pain and frustration.  You will NOT outrun your pain, but you certainly can release it…and tapping will do that.

As I moved forward beyond my losses and total shake up of my life, I found solutions to my business, I attracted different people and scenarios BECAUSE I changed my energy.  What once felt safe, started to become unfulfilling and stifling because I no longer was holding the fear.  I was and have been moving up and out!

My “resistance” had a purpose and I couldn’t explain it when I was “in it”.  I couldn’t understand it even though I am a tapping coach.  It took an outside coach’s view to help me see the WHY and HOW of the deeper reasons.  I was dealing with and handling all I could handle.  So…  I cleared out the emotions over the deaths, the losses, the massive fears of the change I was plunged into, and then…

Ohhhh, then, the childhood patterns showed up.

Awww, and then I cleared them out of my energy.

Wow, and then, amazing avenues for my business opened up so incredibly easily that it almost felt freaky.  I had to tap on the feeling and discomfort of ease because I had been in difficulty for so long that ease felt foreign.  So many layers were unfolding that I felt like I couldn’t bail the boat fast enough…but I did bail the boat with tapping.  I did change my life with tapping.  I DID finally understand and release the reasons why I couldn’t go forward…and then it happened.  No fight.  No difficulty.  No struggle.

What are you waiting for?  Why is it better to stay where you are?  Those questions and many more start to unravel the reasons and the answers–WHILE YOU TAP.  I’ve had clients in their 70s and 80s that have been in the same patterns since they were in their 20s.

Issues don’t just go away.  When you are filled up and can’t do anymore, don’t you want a way to clear things out?  Don’t you want to find a way out?  Do you really want to give up and stay in the pain you are in forever?

Tapping WILL change your life and I’ve lived that first hand along with thousands of others.  Come join us, won’t you?  Here’s to you True Authentic Power!