What Are Your Beliefs About Receiving?

When you think of receiving, what comes to mind?  Sometimes when the things we desire don’t show up for us, it could be because we are subconsciously blocking them.

When you receive, do you feel guilty?

Do you believe that you can get the help you need?

Do you feel that you owe them if they help you?

Do you feel worthy to receive? (During a mass, many Catholics repeated–I am not worthy to receive but….)

Did “they” think you were worthy to receive?  Did you hear, “that” is too good for you?

When you receive, do you feel like you automatically have to reciprocate and give back?

Do you believe that it’s better to give than to receive?

When you receive do you feel anxious in some way?

When you receive do you feel that it comes with a catch?

Is it possible to receive anything unconditionally that you need (or even want)?

Think back to early memories.  Did you have to comply in order to get the “prize”?  Did you have to please them or jump through hoops, or work hard for what you wanted?  Did your needs ever get addressed or were they shot down?  Did you ever come first? On the flip side, did you find that you came last?  All these are clues of where and how you picked up and created energy blocks to receiving.

For some people, things came easily while growing up and that was their early training and patterning.  If however, you saw people around you struggle to get what they wanted or you had to struggle to get what you wanted, then you might have learned to believe in struggle.  Those early experiences or witnessing, had an effect on you whether you knew it or not.

Do you believe that you can only receive when you do what they want?  Do you have an undercurrent of resistance, guilt, or anxiety when you receive?

When things are going well, are you able to stay in the flow without a triggering fear about how long it will last?

I recently had a client who loves to help and give to others.  However, something unfortunate happens to HER when she gives.  She somehow loses money, or in the process of helping, she somehow breaks something or somehow through crazy circumstances, it costs her beyond her giving.

So I asked her, how would it feel to receive?  Marvelous, she replied.  However, as we got more into tapping, the real story started to emerge.  She recalled an incident with a man she cared about very deeply.  When he told her he loved her, her response was, “Don’t tell me that.” Why?  Because she had lost people that she loved and if she was in love, it would hurt all the more.  She couldn’t “receive” without fear.

One of her family members offered to treat her to dinner to a very nice restaurant.  She suggested a cheaper and less desirable restaurant.  She can’t receive.

She asked for some help with her yard.  When I asked her how it looked, she replied “pretty good”.  I pushed further and asked, does it look pretty good or good.  Oh it looks wonderful– but that’s not how she described it initially, which also is a reflection of being able to notice what she receives.  She was not aware of how she blocks or limits receiving.  This is all subconscious and not because she is ungrateful but because she was taught how to struggle to get what she wanted.  She also got the message that women were secondary to men.  When we learn a pattern, we often times unknowingly keep it alive.

She shared that she really loves to be appreciated and have the recipient say thank you, which seldom happened for her, or so she thought.  She really has been blocking receiving more than she realized.  She was unaware of how she had a hard time even recognizing when things shows up!  For her, that is a pattern that was learned.

Now that she is aware, I can help her change her outcome by tapping to release the energy, limiting beliefs and blocks that have been holding in place.

Awareness is the first step.

Tapping is the second step.

Feeling the results is the outcome!!!

I now ask YOU.  Can you easily receive?  Can you relate to some of the above examples?  If things come to you with difficulty, does this article help you see where you might be blocking what you desire?  Share some of your thoughts below.

If you know tapping, tap on all the ways you were taught that things you desired had to come with difficulty.  Tap on any messages that you got about being undeserving for any reason.  Tap on what you saw being difficult.  You can also tap on why you can’t put yourself or your needs first.  Tap on why you need to come last (if that’s true).

If you need or want some help to uncover and release blocks by tapping through them, my “How To Put Yourself First” audio program, might help you.  It not only gives you some ideas and more examples of how what you learned might be holding you back, but there is also a lot of tapping in the audio.  Find out more here.

Patterns don’t just dissolve.  I’ve worked with many clients in their 40, 50, and 60s who’ve had the same patterns since they were little.  You can try to fight against them, but even if you can do that, it’s a lot of work, and you might not get the results you desire!

Tapping brings miracles and I’ve seen MANY, MANY, MANY in my clients!  Are you ready to receive YOUR MIRACLES of transformation?  Here’s to your True Authentic Power!